Very well said, Tze Lin! You wrote this for me, I know you did. Ha. Yes, this is exactly what I have to subscribe to too in order to cope. I have two other chronic illness friends that do not follow the brilliant philosophy you laid out here. I'd love to send them your article, but at the same time, I don't want them to get defensive or offended. One of the friends tortures themselves mentally by not employing that radical acceptance that is so needed. Anyway, good article!